Wednesday, July 25, 2007

The Good Wife's Guide

The smocking is underway, but no pictures yet. Instead I have a little treat for you.

My darling husband brought this home the other day. One of my own children found it and gave it to him. He sneaked it into the house and very nonchalantly chunked it on the kitchen counter. At the bottom he had written in big black letters "I think everyone should aspire to this. I will share it with your mother." It lay there, like a snake, until everyone in the house had read it (of course I was upstairs in the sewing room). I was the last one to see it.

So here it is, from Housekeeping Monthly, May 13, 1956. And I promise I did not make this up:

The Good Wife's Guide
  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
  • Gather up school books, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
  • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces. If they are small, comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first--remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
  • Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

Comments, anyone?


patsijean said...

My husband would definitely think I had lost my marbles if I followed all those rules!!!! One day we were checking out at the grocery store and CD pushed me (not hard, I admit) out of his way so he could get to the credit card reader. I pushed him back and said "Excuse me??". The cashier said to me "You don't take no stuff, do you?" We all grinned when I replied, No, not much."

I was in my early teans in the late 50's and I remember my mother telling me that it was a man's world and that women should do as their husbands asked (but she didn't always follow her own rules, as I remember). I asked her what I should do if I were smarter than my husband and he was suggesting something stupid. Maybe that is why I did not marry until I was 60, 2-1/2 years ago, to a Phd. I've known and have had for a friend for 27 years.

CandlebyNight said...

Well its a worthy goal....

Diane said...

I've seen this guide before but have yet to see a guide for husbands. Oh yeah, they still believe it's all about *them*.

Cody said...

Ha Ha Ha! I think things have changed a little since that time, don't you think?